Shifting Views
Shifting Views
Considerable Expectations
by Dale A Evans
Two houses over, the painters are blasting music. They have a sound system hooked up in the trunk of their car and it’s turned up loud. The bass shakes the cup on my table. The lyrics are something about a bitch riding him and him going in backdoors. Lovely. It’s 9:30 on a Sunday morning and I am not liking this. I think to turn some of my own music on louder. Perhaps some Georges Brassens, Paolo Conte or Maurice Chevalier. I’m feeling French today, plus I like the contrast to the music they’re playing. Hopefully it will piss them off.
Oh, I am opposing this creation! And although matching the energy with my own music sounds fun, it won’t generate what I really want. It was fun to think about, and would be fun to do if my motivation was different. But my motivation isn’t to create a battle. It’s to have quiet.
I let these thoughts go and distract myself with email. Then I begin to notice I’ve been digging on the beat. I still don’t like the lyrics, but I can tune them out. But the beat, I’m liking it. I notice how moving my attention moved my perception. Something that was once a bone of contention is now a pleasure. Kinda.
Now I feel myself getting all riled up again. The music itself and the loudness was one thing, but now I feel what I’m really pissed about. It’s rude and inconsiderate. How dare they impose their music on the whole neighborhood? Namely, me? They’re making us (me) into victims! And don’t they know that being considerate is something everyone should do? How dare they just make their choice with no regard for others? Indeed!
Bing! There it is — my truth. Which of course I think all others should abide by, because I’m right! Ha! I expect it of them.
And with these realizations one of the tenants walks out and the painter turns the music off to talk with him. It hasn’t been turned back on. And the painter is now backing out of the driveway and leaving.
Elias Session 1766
“Defining consideration may be quite tricky, for it varies with different individuals in relation to their beliefs. But the one commonality that is expressed in this term or this idea of consideration is that it shall be formulated in compliance with what YOU want and with what YOU do. Your definition, each of you, of consideration is quite strongly associated with your own actions, with whatever you do and with whatever you prefer. That becomes an expectation of consideration in association with another individual.”
Dale A Evans is a Personal Reality Coach
and Energy Worker at It All Begins Now
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